No more excuses.
I will forever reblog this
It’s sort of horrifying that we all know what they’re talking about without them really saying it.. that it’s become that much of a norm in our society that we just know.
“Most people are shocked to realize that nobody is stopping companies from making sex toys out of whatever materials they want, then labelling them however they please,” laments Epiphora, a snarky sex toy reviewer with six years (and 400 sex toy reviews) of experience. “It upsets me to see people so disillusioned with sex toys.”
Read the rest: The Trouble With Toxic Sex Toys | Bitch Media
yeah, it’s very important to use sex toys made with safe materials and it’s amazing how many places sell toys and lubricants that aren’t good for you and i’m certain people buying those may not know that
Please please read this because toxic sex toys are on the market and I don’t want anyone to hurt themselves being kinky.
Billy Joel - We Didn’t Start The Fire
Harry Truman, Doris Day, Red China, Johnnie Ray, South Pacific, Walter Winchell, Joe DiMaggio, Joe McCarthy, Richard Nixon, Studebaker, Television, North Korea South Korea, Marilyn Monroe, Rosenbergs, H-Bomb, Sugar Ray, Panmunjom, Brando, The King and I, The Catcher in the Rye, Eisenhower, vaccine, England’s got a new queen, Marciano, Liberace, Santayana goodbye
Joseph Stalin, Malenkov, Nasser, Prokofiev, Rockefeller, Campanella, Communist bloc, Roy Cohn, Juan Perón, Toscanini, Dacron, Dien Bien Phu falls, Rock Around the Clock, Einstein, James Dean, Brooklyn’s got a winning team, Davy Crockett, Peter Pan, ElvisPresley, Disneyland, Bardot, Budapest, Alabama, Khrushchev, Princess Grace, Peyton Place, Trouble in the Suez
Little Rock, Pasternak, Mickey Mantle, Kerouac, Sputnik, Chou En-Lai, Bridge on the River Kwai, Lebanon, Charles de Gaulle, California, Baseball, Starkweather homicides, Children of Thalidomide, Buddy Holly, Ben-Hur, Space Monkey, Mafia, Hula hoops, Castro, Edsel is a no-go, U-2, Syngman Rhee, Payola, Kennedy, Chubby Checker, Psycho, Belgians in the Congo
Hemingway, Eichmann, Stranger in a Strange Land, Dylan, Berlin, Bay of Pigs Invasion, Lawrence of Arabia, British Beatlemania, Ole’ Miss, John Glenn, Liston beats Patterson, Pope Paul, Malcolm X, British politician sex, JFK, blown away! What else do I have to say?
Birth control, Ho Chi Minh, Richard Nixon back again, Moonshot, Woodstock, Watergate, Punkrock, Begin, Reagan, Palestine, Terror on the airline, Ayatollah’s in Iran, Russians in Afghanistan, Wheel of Fortune, Sally Ride, Heavy metal suicide, Foreign debts, Homeless vets, AIDS, Crack, Bernie Goetz, Hypodermics on the shore, China’s under martial law, Rock-and-roller cola wars
Educate yourselves, buckos.
Putting aside the lips, the boobs, the waist, the dress…look at the way their stances are presented in the first photo compared to the second. Steph, I’m afraid that leaning against a pillar behind Tim with your knees together and hips cocked isn’t considered an appropriate preparatory fighting stance.
I’m so glad that you posted this—-the difference in the way Steph is presented by these artists is so telling. It’s a prime example of WHY Marcus To is one of my favorite artists in the comic industry right now: he treats women as functional people, rather than objects. The clothes that they’re wearing in this scene are ones that Tim himself picked out, and I can’t see him being anything but practical. He wouldn’t choose—-or let Steph choose—-a dress that has no support/would hamper her ability to move and fight. Does Steph look great in that dress? Sure she does! Does it make sense for her to be wearing it in the context of that scene? Absolutely not. Moreover, her pose on the left side is baffling and sexualized. On the right, she’s standing as Tim’s equal, ready to go and kick ass in those manageable low heels, loose skirt, and solid support for her ladies. I’m not even going to get into her magical ability to gain and lose cup sizes at will, since that is just…well, it’s standard fare for comic ladies.
It’s the little details like this that make Mr. To my favorite. They’re details that count. These two panels may as well be from entirely different scenes, and the right one is at least 150% more empowering to Steph.
What is an asexual person?An asexual person is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Most individuals find there are certain people they are not sexually attracted to. For asexuals, this includes everybody!
Is asexual another word for celibate?Unlike celibacy, which is a lifestyle choice, asexuality is a sexual orientation - just like homosexuality, bisexuality, and heterosexuality. Celibacy is a conscious decision not to have sex, regardless of sexual desire. Many asexuals do not consider themselves celibate, as they are giving up no more in abstaining from sex than a gay person is by abstaining from sex with someone of a different gender or a straight person is by abstaining from sex with the same gender. Furthermore, some asexual people do choose to have sex, and therefore are certainly not celibate.
Are asexuals disgusted by the idea of sex?Some asexuals may be “repulsed” by sex, meaning they are personally averse to the idea of having sex themselves. Some are “indifferent”, meaning they do not mind having sex, despite experiencing no sexual attraction. The same variation exists in the non-asexual population: some sexual people are quite happy to have sex with someone they are not sexually attracted to, but for others this idea is unthinkable.
Are asexuals against other people having sex?Asexuality is not anti-sexuality. While it’s true that many asexuals never have sex, this is not the same thing as having a sex-negative attitude. Attitudes towards sex and its role in culture differ from person to person, just like they do outside the asexual community. Few asexuals express negative attitudes towards sex, but sex-negative attitudes are also present among non-asexual people. Most asexuals are open-minded in their attitudes toward sex regardless of their personal feelings towards it. Many asexuals consider themselves sex-positive.
Do asexuals have relationships?Just like anybody else, some asexual people desire relationships and some do not. An asexual person can find someone visually attractive (aesthetic attraction), be interested in someone romantically (romantic attraction) and fall in love, but these feelings do not have a sexual dimension.
If a relationship is sexless, isn’t it just a friendship?For the majority of people, sex is regarded as what defines a romantic relationship, with love and sex being closely connected. On the whole asexuals don’t connect love and sex, since they don’t experience sexual attraction. Sex is just one way of expressing romantic love. Sex isn’t necessarily what separates love and friendship: some couples choose to be abstinent yet are romantically involved, and there are people who have sex whilst having no romantic connection. Just as sex can exist without love, love can exist without sex. Romantic love is an almost indescribable feeling and is felt and expressed in different ways by different people. No single way is right or more real than another.
Do asexuals have a gender preference in relationships?Although asexuals do not experience sexual attraction, many do experience what is called romantic attraction in which most asexuals have a gender preference, or a romantic orientation. Some asexuals describe themselves as heteroromantic (romantically attracted to a different gender), homoromantic (romantically attracted to the same gender), or biromantic (romantically attracted to both men and women). Panromantic asexuals have no gender preference when it comes to romantic relationships, whereas aromantic asexuals are not romantically attracted to anyone, or do not wish to engage in romantic relationships.
Why don’t asexuals date only other asexuals?Although it may be easier for asexual people to date each other, people can’t control whom they fall for and, due to the current obscurity of asexuality and the small and scattered nature of our community, it can be very hard for asexuals to find one another, let alone a compatible asexual partner. Therefore, at present, it is more common for asexuals to find themselves in relationships with non-asexuals. “Mixed” relationships can be tough for both partners, but they can work, provided they are based on good communication, mutual respect, and understanding.
If an asexual is not attracted to anyone sexually, why would they have sex?There are a number of reasons why an asexual person might have sex. Some asexuals are in relationships with people who are not asexual and negotiate sex as part of their relationship. Some asexuals have sex because they enjoy the physical and emotional connections sex can provide. And some asexuals simply enjoy the pleasurable sensation of sex with another person. Sexuality is defined by how a person feels, not by their behavior.
How can you be asexual but have a sex drive? Isn’t that impossible?Sexual orientation and sex drive are two separate things. Asexuals with a libido experience what is sometimes called an “undirected sex drive”. Whereas most people would ideally satisfy their libido through partnered sexual activity, for asexuals with a libido this is usually not the case, as they are not sexually attracted to anyone.
Can asexuals become sexually aroused?There has only been one scientific study on asexuality and arousal, and it was only with women. The researchers found that asexual women are just as capable of physiological arousal as non-asexual women, and that asexual women were healthily aware of what was going on in their bodies (Brotto and Yule, 2010). Many asexuals experience sexual arousal. Some don’t, but then that’s true for some non-asexual people too. Although people can become aroused by finding someone sexually attractive there are many other factors that can contribute to arousal (for example: touch, or being exposed to sexual stimuli such as erotica).
Is asexuality caused by irregular hormone levels or by a low/non-existent sex drive?There is little scientific study on asexuality, as yet, and we have no better understanding of what causes it than we do of other sexual orientations. At present, there is no evidence to suggest that asexuality is caused by hormone imbalances or a deficient sex drive. Although the majority of asexuals do not desire sex, this is largely due to the fact that they do not find anyone sexually attractive, rather than other factors such as hormone imbalances or a low/non-existent sex drive. There are asexuals who have an active sex drive but still do not feel compelled to engage in partnered sexual activity.
Is asexuality caused by trauma or mental illness?The majority of asexuals have not experienced trauma and do not suffer from mental illness. It is important to remember that trauma and mental illness also occur outside of the asexual community, and there is no data to support the existence of a connection between mental illness and a person’s sexual orientation. On the contrary, according to a recent study ((Brotto et al., 2010), “There were not higher rates of psychopathology among asexuals” than among people in the general population.
Could it be that asexuals just haven’t met the right person yet?Some asexuals have tried engaging in sexual relationships, some more than once, whereas others have felt no need to try sex to verify their feelings. Although some asexuals might choose to experiment sexually, the majority of asexuals just know they don’t want sex with anyone.
Many asexuals have heard this question before. It is similar to telling a straight person that they have not met the right person of the same-gender, or telling a gay person they just haven’t met the right person of a different gender.
How can you know you’re asexual without having sex first?Generally, straight people do not need to have sex with someone of a different gender to know they are straight, just as most gay people do not need to have sex with someone of the same gender to know they are gay. Similarly most asexuals are aware of their orientation without having sex first. There are those however who only conclude they are asexual after having sexual relationships. Any sexual orientation, including asexuality, is an individual experience and we all find out who we are in different ways.
Why are we trying to raise awareness about asexuality?In a world where sex and relationships are everywhere, life for someone who has no instinct for those things can be very isolating, lonely and distressing.
Many asexuals feel “broken” because they do not experience the same wants and desires as “everybody else”. Many asexuals are haunted by feelings of shame and face harassment from peers because they don’t fit in. Many asexuals lead unhappy lives by trying to be “normal”.
By raising awareness about asexuality we hope to let people know that they are not alone, and that their feelings towards sex are nothing to be ashamed of. We want people to know that asexuality is a valid sexual orientation and not something to be cured. We want to help people feel pride in who they are and to know there are others out there just like them.
If more people know about asexuality, then more asexuals can find each other and build communities and lasting relationships from which they can draw comfort and support. Beyond the benefit that projects like AAW bring to the asexual community, asexual awareness can offer interesting insights to the rest of society about the nature of human sexuality and relationships. We hope to show that there are many other forms of love and relationships out there to enjoy!
This is the single best post I’ve ever seen.
Rape has become endemic in South Africa, so a medical technician named Sonette Ehlers developed a product that immediately gathered national attention there. Ehlers had never forgotten a rape victim telling her forlornly, “If only I had teeth down there.”
Some time afterward, a man came into the hospital where Ehlers works in excruciating pain because his penis was stuck in his pants zipper.
Ehlers merged those images and came up with a product she called Rapex. It resembles a tube, with barbs inside. The woman inserts it like a tampon, with an applicator, and any man who tries to rape the woman impales himself on the barbs and must go to an emergency room to have the Rapex removed.
When critics complained that it was a medieval punishment, Ehlers replied tersely, “A medieval device for a medieval deed.”
- Half the Sky, Nicholas Kristof
REBLOGGING THIS. x1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000
A medieval device for a medieval deed - yes.
This is perfect
BLESS THIS PERSON
I BOW TO THIS INTENTION
Can we talk about how beautifully this turns rape culture on its head? Instead of “If they weren’t dressed like that they wouldn’t have been raped” THIS IS LITERALLY “IF THEY HADN’T TRIED TO RAPE SOMEONE THEY WOULDN’T HAVE SPIKES IN THEIR DICK”*
tw: abuse, rape, domestic violence
A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.
The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.
Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types:
1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse.
2. Sabotaging birth control
3. Marital rape
Over 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.
The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.
The second story was about a woman who faced marital rape. This woman was 40, had a then boyfriend and two children from a previous marriage. After telling her boyfriend she did not want any more children, her boyfriend refused to wear a condom and began to rape her. She then became pregnant with her third child. Birth control was never an option for her because she couldn’t hide pills anywhere for he went through all of her belongings. Three months after giving birth, he raped her again, impregnating her with twins. She lost the twins in a physical fight with him, but soon became pregnant again. During her recovery she begged her obstetrician to remove her ovaries and devise a lie to tell him; that she had cancer. After a decade of sexual abuse and violence she was able to get a job that kept her out of the house and often times traveling.
One in four callers to the National Domestic Abuse hotline said that their partners had tried to force them to become pregnant. Why? As one woman stated, “Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.” Having a baby is the perfect tie that binds. These type of abusers want to create a circumstance in which their partner is dependent on him.
WHAT’S THAT HAVE TO DO WITH PLANNED PARENTHOOD?
Many voters never consider how defunding these clinics could hurt victims of domestic violence who turn to them for counseling as well as pregnancy prevention. Abused women will turn to health care providers long before they will turn to domestic abuse hotlines and organizations. Many women in abusive relationships rely on life saving, affordable care programs such as Title X. It is critical that such places are open and operation when women and children need them so desperately.
holy fuck im crying.
I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.
I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.
Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.
When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.
And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.
I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.
I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.
where’s that one post going around that basically says that AMERICAN WOMEN HAVE NO RIGHT TO CLAIM A WAR ON WOMEN????????????????????????????????
i think this is a type of abuse most people just don’t think about
I will reblog this EVERY FUCKING TIME I SEE IT. While I was at Planned Parenthood, getting my IUD out (my old gynecologist wanted $100 to take it out when it needed to come out, because I was uninsured; PP did it for free), there was a woman going through an almost identical situation as described above in the room next to me. I tried really hard not to pay attention to it, and I informed the nurse that I could hear the conversation so they might want to, I dunno, look into better soundproofing, but I was in tears the entire time.
The people with Planned Parenthood are really, truly amazing.
I want to take a few minutes to unpack a common criticism of Disney’s Beauty and the Beast, namely that it glorifies abusive relationships, telling impressionable young girls that it’s okay if their boyfriends shout at them and get physically violent, because they can “fix them with their love.” While it’s easy to look at the movie’s reputation in pop culture and make that assessment based on the broad strokes, if you look a little closer you’ll see that this conclusion is complete hogwash. Let me explain why.
Fanboy: What could you find wrong with Pacific Rim?
Me: Not much, but would it have killed them to have a woman amongst the science or support staff? I mean, how can a movie this good fail the Bechdel test? C’mon.
Fanboy: Well, who could have been female?
Me (shrugs): How about Choi?
Fanboy: That wouldn’t work.
Me: Why not?
Fanboy: Because they would’ve had to change the lines when he’s first introduced, about the date. That’s how the character is introduced, that’s how he bonds with the Becketts.
Me: No, they wouldn’t. They could leave that exactly as it is.
Fanboy: But he says that the girl had a good time, but her boyfriend was mad.
Me: (waits patiently for the other shoe to drop)
Me: (slowly nodding)
Fanboy: OH MY GOD CHOI WOULD’VE MADE THE BEST BOW TIE WEARING LESBIAN EVER.
Me: Thatta boy.
In the Netherlands, abortion is freely available on demand. Yet the Netherlands boasts the lowest abortion rate in the world, about 6 abortions per 1000 women per year, and the complication and death rates for abortion are miniscule. How do they do it? First of all, contraception is widely available and free — it’s covered by the national health insurance plan. Holland also carries out extensive public education on contraception, family planning, and sexuality. An ethic of personal responsibility for one’s sexual activity is strongly promoted. Of course, some people say that teaching kids about sex and contraception will only encourage them to have lots of sex. But Dutch teenagers tend to have less frequent sex, starting at an older age, than American teenagers, and the Dutch teenage pregnancy rate is 9 times lower than in the U.S.
"But seriously, what have women even accomplished anyway?"
Awesome women being awesome :)
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